Break my heart for what breaks Yours, God. I don’t know who first said that, maybe Bob Pierce? When I hear the phrase, though, I always think, “God, what really does break Your heart?” Because I don’t think it’s what we normally think of as the major world atrocities.


There are many things that come to mind: racial disharmony, people killing other people out of anger or prejudice, rape, murder, domestic violence, abortion of a child before it even has a chance to live, abuse of all kinds especially of children, human trafficking, poverty, hunger, infected drinking water, lack of proper sewage and disposal facilities, horrible atrocities in the name of religion. We need only read the newspaper to add to the list.

All of these things and more break God’s heart. His heart breaks when we hurt others, our fellow human beings whom He created just as His heart breaks when we harm ourselves.

In the great scheme of things God tell us one thing and one thing only matters. He says it in two words. Two words that sum up what His desire is for us.

Choose Life

God’s desire for us is simple. We are to choose life and when we don’t, His heart is broken. He put us here to have life and more abundant. Jesus said, “A thief has only one thing in mind—he wants to steal, kill and destroy. But my desire is to give you everything in abundance, more than you expect—life in its fullness until you overflow.”1

This is not just a nice sentiment. It’s not a mass-produced greeting card from God. It’s His plan for each and every person ever born, ever to walk on this planet.

Listen to the true heartbeat of God. ““Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!”2

Choose Death

The opposite of His desire is the thing that truly breaks His heart. That is when we willfully choose death. We do that in so many ways. Many of them I mentioned above. We choose death when we choose to harm others either with our actions or our words.

Even beyond that, though, we choose death when we pursue addictive behaviors that become strongholds which lead us straight to a life of curses instead of blessings.
God desires everything in abundance for us, more than we expect—life in its fullness until we overflow, but we walk away. We shake our heads, “No.” We say, “I’d rather have the foods I crave rather than God’s abundant life of blessings. I’d rather eat my fill of donuts than fulfill that destiny call God has on my life.”

Why Does It Break His Heart?

This breaks God’s heart because He has such wonderful plans for us and we sell them all for a pot of beans and cornbread or maybe, to be more realistic for the 21st century, a German chocolate cake.

He was ready to give us everything, to make us “the visible display of the infinite, limitless riches of His grace and kindness.”3 The truth is He needs us to share His Son with other people. He can’t do it by Himself. He needs us. So He cries out for us to choose life so He can bless us with all we need to tell others about the saving knowledge of Jesus.

That is His true mission. It is the ultimate way we choose life. He needs us to demonstrate that to the world. When we are willfully choosing death we are no trophy of His grace.

We Always Have A Choice

I’ve wondered why God would even state a choice between life and death. It seems like a no brainer. Of course I choose life. Doesn’t everyone?

Choosing life is not just as easy as saying we do so. Talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words and cost more to deliver. Choosing life means we have to back that up by how we live.

If you had asked me when I weighed 430 pounds if I choose life or death, I would tell you life, but my actions proved different.

Fast Track To Early Death

I was eating myself to death. I I wasn’t eating my body. I was eating everything I wanted, whenever I wanted and that was putting me on the fast track to an early death.

I wanted to be used by God, but in reality I was pretty useless. I had no stamina or energy. My brain was not focused and I had no clarity of thought. I couldn’t even dream of what it might be like to be halfway normal and anywhere near healthy.

I could barely walk into my daughter’s junior high band concert, much less do anything halfway meaningful. I had chosen food over life. I should have been viewing food as fuel, instead I had chosen to view eating all kinds of comfort foods as my reason to live.

God’s Way

God has a great destiny plan and purpose for our lives. All we have to do is choose it, but how do we do that?

God makes it easy. Right after telling us to choose life, He tells us how we can do that.

“You can make this choice by loving the Lord your God, obeying Him, and committing yourself firmly to Him. This is the key to your life.”4

It’s God’s simple plan to help us live a full and meaningful life. A life of purpose. A life beyond our wildest imaginations. When we tap into followship, awesome things begin to happen.

Changed From The Inside Out

Paul tells us that when we fix our attention on God we will be changed from the inside out.5 And then in his letter to Ephesus he tells us what happens when we do that. Listen carefully because this is beautiful result of following God.

“We have become His poetry, a recreated people who will fulfill the destiny He has given each of us, for we are joined to Jesus, the Anointed One. Even before we were born, God planned in advance our destiny and the good works we would do to fulfill it.”6


What do you want? What do you dream of? What do you want your life to stand for? What do you want others to remember you for when you are no longer here on this earth?

When I thought about that question I could only think about what I didn’t want it to live for. I didn’t want to be remembered as the Mom or Aunt who baked the best cakes or pies or hot rolls or potato casserole.

I wanted to be remembered as someone who helped others get set free from the strongholds we allow to take over our lives. I allowed comfort foods made with sugar and flour to overwhelm me completely, to move in a set up house without even bothering to pay rent.

First Real Day

When I kicked them out, it was the best day of my life. In reality, it was the first real day of my destiny-driven life.

It can be for you as well. You can step into that place where all that matters is following Jesus with everything that is within you. You can begin to realize the foods you eat are just necessary tools for life.

Work with me for six months in my new coaching class and group, #KickWeight. We finished up the first six-month session at the end of September. That group lost 408 pounds! It’s so amazing. I just have to keep repeating it over and over. I’m so proud of them.

Join us in the second session of #KickWeight. The group is already working on action steps from the first video.  October 18 is the final day to accept new members. After that, it will be time to close the doors for the transformation process to begin.

Go HERE now for your personal lifestyle change journey.

1John 10:10 TPT

2Deut. 30:19 NLT

3Ephesians 2:7 TPT

4Deut. 30:20 NLT

5Romans 12:2 MSG

6Ephesians 2:10 TPT

Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. Her other books include: "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God".

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