The little bird was being pushed out of the nest by Momma Bird. It said, “But Momma, what if I fall?” And Momma said, “Ah, My Child, but what if you fly?”


Fear of Falling

“I’m afraid to try to lose weight or even try to give up sugar. I’m afraid I will be a failure once again and to tell you the truth, I can’t take failing again.” I hear this or some version of it from so many people. If they don’t say it outright I know they are thinking it.

Oh friends, I so understand this dilemma. I was stuck there for at 30 years afraid of falling. I look back on how I struggled and shake my head. If I had only done what God told me to do when He told me, I could have been flying much sooner.

I’m not crying over missed opportunities though. Every broken road led me to straight to God’s mercy, grace and most of all His activation, but it took me way too long to get there. That’s why I’m helping others before it becomes too late for them.

God gave me this gift of compassion for exactly where you are right now, like that baby bird standing on the edge of the nest ready to fly. In truth it’s where I was for many years. I wasted so much time. Sometimes I think about how things could have been so different had I had just taken the step of faith He showed me.


I know God has a purpose for my life. He tells me that in a passage of Scripture I know well. You probably do, too.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.  In those days when you pray, I will listen.  If you look for Me wholeheartedly, you will find Me.  I will be found by you,” says the Lord.1

In reality that passage would be better interpreted, “For I know the purpose I have for you. It’s a purpose for good and not disaster.” I stayed stuck because I was afraid I wasn’t working the right plan to get to His purpose for my life.

I’d tried so many plans and they all ended in me dive-bombing deeper into disaster. I figured I just didn’t know God’s plan. So, for years I determined to do nothing about my weight.

Doing Nothing

Doing nothing, though, is akin to going backwards. I only spiraled downward. I only gained up to 430 pounds. I only caused my blood pressure to sky-rocket. I only got diagnosed with congestive heart failure and diabetes. I only had a cardiac surgeon to tell me I had five years to live if I didn’t lose weight.

All that happened because I did nothing and stayed wallowing in fear.

God’s Purpose

God, though, still had a purpose for me and God’s purposes always stand. God is at work in me in order to fulfill His good purpose for my life.2

Having the right plan helps. He told me what to do in 1977. The plan sounded too hard. It sounded like I would fail if I did it God’s way and so I tried my own plans. True to what Jeremiah predicted years ago, my plan ended in disaster. That was never God’s desire, though.

God has a purpose for my life, but the plans of how to get me there are flexible. No one is perfect and no follows God perfectly. We take detours. We mess up. God, though, has that calculated into His purpose for us.

What Failure Teaches Us

Every time we don’t do things perfectly, He uses that to teach us and build our spiritual muscle. As the great theologian Thomas Edison said, “I haven’t failed. I’ve just learned 9,999 ways that don’t work.” I’m kidding about the theologian part, but it is a spiritual truth. We all fail, but the key is to let failure teach us instead of stop us.

I get it. It’s scary to start a new plan, to do something different, to step into that place knowing it might be a tad bit hard. Can I tell you this one thing from personal experience? When we do things God’s way it will be the easiest hard thing we have ever done. It was true for me and for many who’ve been through my coaching groups.


Like  #KickWeight member Jo Ellerbee says, “Before coming into #KickWeight I had lots of head knowledge, but felt stuck and unable to implement it. Through #KickWeight, changes in thinking have created physical life changes rather than just a mental understanding of concepts. God answered my queries in ways I can cling to. I truly feel He has put iron in my soul (Psalm 119:175 MSG). I am amazed and deeply humbled by His hand. In the process I have lost over 42 pounds.”

In #KickWeight’s first session 48 people lost a combined total of 390 pounds in six months. Some did nothing, many lost as much as Jo or more. Today, I am convinced more than ever that every detail of my life and yours is continually woven together to fit into God’s perfect plan of bringing good into our lives, for we are His lovers who have been called to fulfill His designed purpose.3

Your Choice

He allows us to make choices, but He always gives us another choice. I’m telling you now that #KickWeight is that choice for you. How do I know? You are reading this for a reason.

God is calling you for a purpose that’s greater than anything you can ask, think or imagine.4 Just imagine living your life with energy, clarity, vitality, purpose and less weight to encumber you.

Give yourself a chance. God is willing to give you another one. Won’t you invest in yourself today? It’s never too late to do to learn how to fly. Join #KickWeight today. Go HERE for the flight of your life.


1 Jeremiah 29:11-14 NLT

2Philippians 2:13 NIV

3Romans 8:28 TPT

4Ephesians 3:20 MSG

Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. Her other books include: "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God".

She also offers Overcomers Christian Weight Loss Academy and VIP one-on-one coaching program, both available under the weight loss tab. To book Teresa for your next event, check the Speaking tab on her website. Also check out her blog and Sweet Grace for Your Journey podcast under the tabs by those names.