“Jesus did not die for truth, He died for people,” said Paul McDonald, interim pastor of Christian Chapel in Columbia, MO. “Truth was definitely a part of it, but He died for people. . . Our disposition toward people is what brings them to Christ more than slicing them to bits with truth.”

His message on Sunday, Feb. 10, 2013, reminded those present of the how love expressed through everyday kindness should be the primary goal of every Christian. “Be kind to people even those not on the same page as you. Be a person of truth but let love of others guide your life.”

Anyone can pick out the flaws in others, McDonald explained, but to love others despite their flaws is the heart of the gospel. “God’s grace and love needs to be seen through us before we can minister to and help others. The kindness of God should be the fragrance of our life. What’s the fragrance you leave? Is it one of joy or depression, love or Pharisaicalness ?”

The following are questions to be used in life group or small group Bible study discussions.

Why should someone in spiritual authority act more loving towards church leadership and church members?

How should a person in spiritual authority talk to church leadership or members about issues in which they disagree? How would you want a person in spiritual authority to point out to you that perhaps you have done something wrong or that your actions or theology you are teaching is wrong?

Some people say love is an emotion. What does 1 Cor. 13:1-8 indicate love is?

If you don’t necessarily feel loving towards someone, how will acting loving help?

Ephesians 4:32 How should we treat others? Why?

Luke 6:35 What should we expect in return for kindness and why?

Proverbs 3:3-4  What two things go hand in hand? Why do you think kindness is listed first and therefore the more important?

What does it mean to bind something to you if it is talking about a yoke that steers you?

How can you write something on your heart so that it never leaves and is always before you.

“Jesus did not die for truth, He died for people.” Discuss this quote.

How do you think you should biblically deal with flaws and miscomings in others? How should you not deal with them?

Acts 10:38  Brainstorm about things you could do for others as you go about your everyday life.

Colossians 3:22 How do you carry yourself so that the fragrance you leave after you’re gone is one of kindness?

How does the kindness of God expressed through us open us up to people who need Jesus?

Gal. 5:22  How can we most effectively express the fruit of the Spirit?

“Do not live according to the dictates of your heart. Your patience is not good enough, you need God’s patience.” Talk about how to do this.

How should we relate to those who are “extras” in our life, similar to extras on a movie screen, not the primary actors or not those who have a role in the primary plot of our life? Where do you find extras? How should we relate to “extras” in our life?

How did Jesus relate to the “extras” in His life? Give an example.

What might happen if everyone in your group was kind to 15 more people this week? And then 15 more the next week?

Titus 3:4-7 How was God kind to us?

What would it take for your church to be known as a house of love?

What would it take for you to be known as a person of love?

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