The state we are all currently living in could be called the state of confusion. If you are like me, I don’t do well in confusion. I like to be decisive, to make a decision and stick to it, but these days no one wants to make a decision that goes past tomorrow at the most.

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Giant, Disorderly Mess

We feel like we can’t plan for the future so we are living in this never-never land of being perpetually on hold with most everything. That really goes against my nature so there is turmoil and confusion rolling around inside me.

Confusion means having a lack of understanding, uncertainty, a breakdown of order, doubt, skepticism, indecision, perplexity, upheaval and a general feeling that everything is a giant disorderly jumbled up mess.

Paul tells us in 1 Cor 14:33 that God is not the author of confusion, but of peace. I’ve known this to be true in my life. When confusion hits, that means God is not in that decision or choice. So, how do we even know that we are in confusion instead of peace and how can we find peace in the midst of these topsy-turvy times?

Turmoil and Food

For 20 years we took care of mentally challenged foster teens and young adults. To say they lived in confusion is an understatement. Each one we took care of had different diagnoses and issues. But one of the biggest things each of them had was a tendency to misuse food.

One of our foster sons tried to eat everything in sight even if it made him sick.  Several foster daughters would carry off bags of chips or cookies or anything they could find to their room and eat them in the middle of the night. However trying to eat away their confusion and turmoil never worked for them and it won’t work for us either

I have a feeling there are many who are trying to do some of these same things. Like my foster son you are trying to hoard food and other items that for some odd reason you think you can’t do without.

If this crisis had happened when I was super morbidly obese, I’d be freaking out. I couldn’t let there be any vacant space in my pantry, refrigerator or freezer because I didn’t want to chance being without food. To me that would have been the worst thing in the world.

Personal Accountability

Some are like the foster daughters we had and are sneaking food so others can’t see what you’re doing. Not that the others would care, but if they did see you then you’d have to be accountable for what you are eating.

It’s interesting to me that we don’t want others to see what we are doing, but what we are doing will eventually show up on the scales anyway. Why do we play this game of if no one sees me eat it then it doesn’t count?

The biggest thing we have to learn on the journey to healthy living is personal accountability, first to ourselves and then to God. We cannot be accountable to God if we are constantly lying to ourselves.

Burying Our Heads In the Sand

Lying to ourselves means we aren’t keeping track of what we are eating. It’s like if we don’t know how many calories we are eating in a day then we don’t have to worry about it. And if we don’t step on the scales then our weight will just magically stay the same.

There are many things that we like to bury our heads in the sand about and pretend they will just go away. For many years I would pray that God would just magically remove the weight from my body without any effort on my part.

What I learned is God will do His part, but only when I surrender my right to eat whatever I want, whenever I want it. I have to be willing to surrender the foods that are making me unhealthy. When I finally made that commitment, God led me on the wildest journey to transformation ever and all at the courtesy of His matchless, powerful grace. He will do the same for you.

Following God Brings Peace

When I did that I also discovered His peace. That’s because His peace is found when I am following what He wants me to do. If I am doing my own thing, going my own way and not listening to Him I am always going to be living in total confusion, whether or not there is a global pandemic!

Remember, God is not the author of confusion, but of peace. I need to be following God or I will be wallowing in confusion and turmoil. It happens every time I try to take matters into my own hands.

One of the best ways to walk in peace is to make a daily commitment to God. Philippians 4:6-7 TPT says, “Don’t be pulled in different directions or worried about a thing. Be saturated in prayer throughout each day, offering your faith-filled requests before God with overflowing gratitude. Tell him every detail of your life, then God’s wonderful peace that transcends human understanding, will make the answers known to you through Jesus Christ.”

We need to pray, especially when we are anxious, worried and confused. We need to tell God every detail. He wants to know that we ate that snickers bar and counted it as protein! He knows it already, but He so desperately wants to help us that He wants us to acknowledge it.

It’s in confessing those things to God and being accountable directly to Him that answers will come. He will make them known to you. How? Oh my friend, you will know. You will know! They will come through His peace that transcends human understanding.

The War Inside Us

The definition of peace is freedom from disturbance; a tranquil or a state or period in which there is no war or a war has ended. Peace is freedom from war.

I know when I was not eating the way God wanted me to eat, there was a constant war going on inside me. It was a strong conviction of the Holy Spirit that I was denying because I wanted my own fleshly desires.

Still, I wanted the war to end. I knew the only way it would end is If I surrendered what I ate completely to Jesus. My default programming of eating what I wanted was strong and didn’t want me to do that.

Surrender Brings Peace

Finally, it came down to surrender to Him or die. This was literally the case for me because a cardiac surgeon had given me five years to live if I didn’t lose weight. It was not easy, but finally completely surrendering my will to His began the start of ending that war inside me.

With my initial surrender came the wash of His overwhelming, supernatural, out-of-this-world peace. There’s nothing like knowing you are walking towards everything God wants for you.

Let me ask you a question. What would bring your body peace right now? I know you want to lose weight, but that really isn’t where the war is, now is it. The war is for your heart and whether it is totally committed to allowing God’s power through His Holy Spirit to be activated fully in you. That doesn’t mean you will be perfect. You may fail. That’s ok. The war is for your surrender and your commitment.

Are you ready for peace? Then surrender is the only choice. You can do that right now simply by saying, “Holy Spirit, fill me completely. I surrender completely to You, even the foods I think I can’t live without. Guide me in the next step you want me to take on this journey.”

If you prayed this prayer let me know! For more on this topic, don’t miss episode 26, Peace Amidst Confusion, on Sweet Grace for Your Journey podcast. Find it HERE.




Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. Her other books include: "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God".

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