The photo shows a grandmother with five cute grandchildren. The note says, “These are the reasons I want to get healthy.”

Victory for this woman is something she desires deeply. She has good reasons. Her “why” is firmly in place, but she is afraid she will not be an overcomer. If you are morbidly obese, you most likely feel some of what she feels.

Woman with open arms.I get emails and messages and comments from people like this every day. They have accepted their issue. They know the need to lose weight and are trying.

Many people, like this grandmother, ask me the inevitable question, “How can I know for sure I will achieve victory in this area?”

To answer that we first have to understand what we are asking. The definition of victory is a success or triumph over an enemy in battle or the ultimate and decisive superiority in any battle or contest. It leaves the impression that we can be victorious in one battle and lose in another.

However if the battle we are fighting is to become healthy and stay healthy, to gain victory we must change our strategy to be long-term.

Acceptance of the issue that caused the problem is the first step. Many people stay stuck here. They have accepted they have a problem and they have tried short-term fixes hoping to go back to business as usual after they gain their version of health, which merely consists of losing a certain amount of weight.

Their own willpower will work to help lose weight for a season but as soon as the weight has been lost, willpower is put on the back shelf, resolve has been let down and the problems they had before slowly creep back in.

They sigh and say, “See, it didn’t work again. I just don’t know why God won’t give me victory in this area.” And they gain the weight back plus more. I know. In my life I’ve lost 100 pounds at least five times and gained it back plus more.

The real key is the second step, surrender. That’s when we lay the thing we crave on the altar and leave it there. We say, “God I’m giving this up for the rest of my life. I want to be healthy to serve and worship you. I want you more than I want that thing.”

It’s crazy to think that we have allowed something as ridiculous as sugar to take the place of God in our lives. If we crave sugar constantly, then we have put it in His place. If we crave donuts more than we crave time with God then we have put them in His place.

The only way to combat this is to lay it on the altar and ask for God’s help to not pick it up again. We set a firm boundary where processed sugar is concerned. We put something in it’s place.

In my case, it was fruit and exercise. These help keep me grounded and focused on eating to live rather than living to eat.

Involved in the second step is the process of repentance and turning and walking the other direction towards health.

Then, the third step to victory is to walking out your journey choice by choice, step by step holding tight to Jesus’ hand asking His help, inviting the Holy Spirit to remind you when you are going astray and desiring to be held close to the Father’s heart.

Walking out my victory takes making choices every day. I don’t even have to wonder if I will have the chocolate cake for dessert. I will have fruit or, better yet, a protein bar. These choices are ones I know are necessary to keep me free and healthy.

You see, I once was bound in chains of super morbid obesity. I will never go back. Nothing tastes as good as freedom feels.

Walking out these steps will bring victory and a chance at many more years to enjoy grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes,” Ephesian 6:10-11.


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Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. Her other books include: "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God".

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