My daughter didn’t like my rule of not going into the busy road in front of our house. She loved to play in the rocks right at the end of the driveway so I allow that, but going into that road where folks topped the rise in front of our house going at least 50 was a huge, “no” and she knew it.

Jenny and Odie with Andrew and Garfield. Note the driveway and the road.

My son was gone to school and it was just her and me at home. I was working on a writing project while keeping an eye on her out the picture window near my computer.

I looked out the window and there she was in the middle of the road! I ran out and screamed at her to get back in the yard. To her credit she was already running from the road cat in hand.

What We Want

Apparently she had gone into the road only long enough to get the cat whom she was afraid would be hit by the cars I always warned her about.

I acknowledged her concern about the cat and told her that as much as she loved her kitty, I loved her even more. I explained that she is still not to go in the road even to get the cat under no circumstances.

“The kitty can run much faster than you can,” I said. “When she hears or feels a car coming she will get up and run really fast.”

However in my daughter’s defense we did have quite a few kittens killed on the road so understood her concern. Still, I stood firm. My “No” was still, “No.” It was no not because I was a mean Mom, but because I love my children fiercely

God’s No

The same is true of God, our Father. He loves us madly and would give us anything. But He also knows what is best for us. Even though we know that, when we pray for someone to be healed of disease, delivered from addiction or restored from issues that may have been of their own making and it doesn’t happen, we blame God.

It seemed like it was something God would want to happen, so why did He say, “No?” We think God is being mean. I choose to believe God is allowing us to experience our faith in Him being stretched. We may not like it at the time, but it will result in good in the long run.

Consider Job

I am reminded of Job whom God said “was blameless—a man of complete integrity. He feared God and stayed away from evil,” (Job 1:1 NLT).

It was actually God who brought Job’s name up to Satan who had been roaming the earth. God said, “Have you noticed my servant Job? He is the finest man in all the earth.” (Job 1:8 NLT).

The devil answers, “Yeah, but You give him everything he has ever wanted or needed. He’s filthy rich. He only worships You for what he gets from You. Take it all away and You’ll see. He will curse You to Your face!” (That’s my paraphrase of Job 1: 9.)

God saw a chance to stretch Job’s untried faith so he allowed Satan to test him without killing him. In the end Job didn’t curse God and die like his wife advised him to do, (Job 2:9). Instead he goes through the trials still trusting God.

Spiritual Eyes

At the end of the book, Job and God have a conversation. Job says something I don’t think he would have said prior to this severe time of testing. “I had heard of You only by the hearing of the ear, but now my spiritual eye sees You,” (Job 42:5 NLT).

God, give us not only knowledge of who You are, but spiritual eyes to really see You.

Job’s faith was purified by the trials he went through. In the end, God blessed him with a double anointing of prosperity wealth and family. He lived 140 more years experiencing four generations of his descendants.

Another In the Fire

If our faith has never been trusted, how do we know it is pure, true and real? We are human. One day we will die. One day those we love will die. That may mean they will get sick and struggle and we will have to go through that with them.

In the midst of the fire is where we finally understand that God doesn’t deliver us from some trials, He simply stands with us as we go through them. He is another in the fire with us experiencing everything we are experiencing, crying with us and giving us the peace and comfort we need here on this earth.

His “No” Means, “No”

In 1977 when I started gaining weight, I asked God, “How can I remove this mountain of flesh on my body?” He gave me a simple plan. “Stop eating sugar. Stop eating so much bread. Start eating more meats, fruits and vegetables.”

When He said, “Stop,” He meant it. He didn’t mean stop for awhile until you lose weight and then you can eat all you want again. He meant no sugar. Period. None for the rest of your life.

When God says, “No,” to us, it’s because there is a much bigger, “YES” waiting for us when we accept His answer. Out of necessity, I have gotten so much closer to God through this journey. It has required a renewal of every single part of me spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. I have truly been made new, (2 Cor. 5:17).

God loves us. His boundaries are always put in place to keep us safe. Had I adhered to His boundaries then, I would not have struggled with sugar addiction later. I wouldn’t have gained up to 430 pounds.

God Uses Everything We’ve Been Through

God used everything I’ve gone through, though, to help me lose more than 250 pounds so I have the experience I need to help others lose the weight they need to live and step into a healthier lifestyle.

He turned my situation around for my good, but more importantly for His glory. “So we are convinced that every detail of our lives is continually woven together to fit into God’s perfect plan of bringing good into our lives, for we are his lovers who have been called to fulfill his designed purpose,” (Romans 8:28 TPT).

You are important to God. He doesn’t want to lose you before you’ve fulfilled your purposes here on this earth. It’s time to listen to His “No” in your life and understand the greater “YES” you cannot see is on the other side of obedience.

I’ve been writing about Seven Keys for Spiritual Weight Loss and this is our sixth key. When God says, “No,” He means, “No.” When understanding this key, ask yourself this question, “Do you accept and obey God’s limit when He tells you, ‘No,’ or do you try to compromise and negotiate until you do just do it your way?”

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Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. Her other books include: "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God".

She also offers Overcomers Christian Weight Loss Academy and VIP one-on-one coaching program, both available under the weight loss tab. To book Teresa for your next event, check the Speaking tab on her website. Also check out her blog and Sweet Grace for Your Journey podcast under the tabs by those names.