What happens when everything changes? Transformation of any type is a process, we all know this. Many times we want it to happen in a miraculous instant, be easy and painless with the least interruption possible. This is true whether trying to get out of debt, working on a difficult relationship, discovering a career direction or overcoming a problem with alcohol, drugs, food, pornography, gambling or any other addiction. It will take time and everything, I mean everything, will have to change!

Butterflies
It’s no secret that I love butterflies. Of course they are beautiful to look at, but I love them for the analogy of transformation. They do serve a purpose in nature of pollinating flowers and plants, but I also believe God put them here on earth to teach us about how everything must change when we surrender to His perfect design for us.
Butterflies start out in a totally different form as a caterpillar. As everyone knows, caterpillars are hungry. Their main job is to eat in order to fuel their transformation process.
When the time is right, a specific hormone is released which triggers the beginning of the chrysalis stage. This whole process is orchestrated by our more than brilliant Creator. They enter this dark time that very little is known about except that they undergo a radical change.
Everything about them changes. All that is caterpillar melts and rearranges into a creature that no one who knew them before will recognize. They used to eat leaves and crawl on the ground. Now they eat nectar and fly.
Metamorphosis
This feels very much like the process happened to me. One of the dictionary definitions of a metamorphosis is “any complete change in appearance, character, circumstances.” One only needs to look at my before and after pictures to understand my physical metamorphosis. God’s design for me was not to gain a tremendous amount of weight, be sad and unhappy. He had abundant life1 in store for me, but it seemed impossible2 when I was drowning in my own fat at 430 pounds.
[Tweet “God had abundant life in store for me, but I was drowning in my own fat at 430 pounds.”]
What I love about God is that He can take our worst messes and make them into our greatest message. He used my desire to lose weight to draw me closer to Him. I learned I couldn’t lose weight on my own and keep it off. I could only do it by allowing Him to be my strength and lead me step-by-step. This, then, became my process for weight loss and total transformation.
Chrysalis
I had to enter my own chrysalis where everything about me changed and I emerged with everything totally rearranged. My mindset changed. The way I handled my emotions changed. Where I got my determination to go on changed. My ideas about what, when, how much and why I ate changed. My feelings about exercise changed. Understanding the things that gave me pleasure totally changed. (Hint: It no longer had anything to do with food.)
Most importantly, my concepts about what God wants from me and for me radically changed. I realized I had to stop trying so hard and simply surrender all that I am, including my tremendous weakness for foods made with sugar and flour, to the will and care of my almighty God who is more concerned about me than even I am.
Surrender
I learned, He works best through people who understand and fully admit their weaknesses. He says, “My grace is enough. It’s all you need. My strength comes into its own in your weakness.”3
Scriptures I knew began to come alive, jump off the page and into my life. My purpose and meaning began to become clear to me. I’m here to let others know they, too, can overcome anything with God’s help.
“I know what it means to lack and I know what it means to experience overwhelming abundance. For I’m trained in the secret of overcoming all things, whether in fullness or in hunger. And I find that the strength of Christ’s explosive power infuses me to conquer every difficulty.”4
Grace
All my life had been about trying harder, striving more, always attempting to “earn” what I already had in Christ. It’s not that I didn’t know the Scriptures said I was saved by grace and not by any kind of “works”5 I had done or would do. It’s just that I couldn’t fathom how God could just sit back and not require me to work harder.
I especially knew that I had fallen extremely short of doing what God had showed me I needed to do in order to lose weight. I knew I couldn’t do it on my own, so I tried to earn His smile in other ways like teaching Sunday School, leading small groups, writing articles, publishing newspapers.
Love
These were all good and important works, but they had to flow out of my love for Him, not because I was trying to earn something from Him. Today, knowing I am doing what He is leading to me to do as one of His daughters is my greatest privilege and my life mission. I can truly say wherever He leads me I will follow in obedience born of love. It’s His love that forgave me for nearly eating myself to death. It’s because of His love I hear His voice, listen, follow and obey.6
This transformation has been very physical. I’ve lost more than 260 pounds. It’s been very emotional. I’ve learned to embrace and manage my emotions with God’s help. It’s been very mental. I am allowing God to renew my mind and give me the mind of Christ. It’s been very spiritual. I don’t take a step without Jesus.
[Tweet “It is only when I am weak that I get out of the way and free God to be strong through me.”]
Weakness
I no longer try to maintain an act of strength. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that am weak. I know, though, that understanding my weakness is a really good thing. It is only when I am weak that I get out of the way and free God to be strong through me.7
I love the butterfly because everything about them changes to make a glorious creation. I also love the fact that I was once a caterpillar and am now transformed into a butterfly. Are you ready for your transformation?

What if God said, “I choose you for the transformation of your life?” He has you know? In several weeks the second six-month session of my lower cost coaching class, #KickWeight, will be open for registration. Although we still have about six more weeks of the first session, already members have reported over 222 pounds of weight gone forever as they are tapping into their new healthy lifestyle changes. When the new session opens, it will be the ridiculously low price of $47 a month. We have limited spots. To be notified when the next group opens, get your name on the transformation waitlist. You will be notified when the doors are open for registration. I do hope you will join us. I so I want to see you FLY. For those potential flight lessons, go to this LINK now and signup.
1John 10:10 AMP
2Luke 18:27 NLT
32 Cor. 12:9 MSG
4Philippians 4: 11-13 TPT
5Ephesians 2:8-9 NIV
6John 10:27 NIV
72Cor. 12:10 MSG

Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach, podcaster, and speaker, who has lost 250 pounds and kept it off since 2013. Her books include: “Reconnecting Jayne: Her Sister’s Support,” “Rebuilding Jayne: Her Father’s Protection,” “Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God’s Favor,” “Sweet Grace Study Guide,” “Sweet Victory: Winning the Battle,” “Sweet Surrender: Breaking Strongholds,” “Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy”, “Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God’s Help,” “Sweet Freedom Study Guide,” “Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation,” “Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God,” and “Sweet Excuses: Stop Lying to Yourself & Start Losing Weight.” She also offers Overcomers Christian Weight Loss Academy and VIP intensive coaching. Don’t miss her weekly podcast, Sweet Grace for Your Journey, where she shares tips from her personal journey of losing weight and discovering healthy living. Contact her at [email protected].
Love this article. Very inspiring and empowering. Thank you so much for sharing.
Thanks so much Roshanda. I love to inspire and empower!
I need a total metamorphosis in my life, physically, spiritually and mentally. I need Gods help as I cannot do it alone
Leona, please think seriously about coming into the new #KickWeight group or coming into Sweet Change Weight Loss Coaching and accountability group. #KickWeight will open in a few weeks. You need to go to the page and get on the waitlist to be notified before I go public with it. There will be limited spots. Here’s that url. It’s the landing page that shares all about the group. https://www.teresashieldsparker.com/KickWeight. In Kickweight there is a teaching video every other week and a Q&A video to answer folks’ questions from the group on the off weeks.
With Sweet Change you get a video every week and a lot more indepth coaching, all you have to do is ask and I answer your questions and lead you in the process. With SC you also have a monthly video call with me which is a group call, but I do a lot of one-on-one coaching on those calls. In addition, if you commit to six months of SC you will get into #KickWeight as well. You have both groups.
When I started my journey, I needed a group to be accountable to and a mentor who’d been there. Sometimes I didn’t want to show up, but when I did and would share my issues, God would meet me there mostly through my coach who helped me understand how to change my mindset and do the work I needed to do.
This is why I began Sweet Change Group over two years ago. I know those of us who need a total metamorphosis need people who are in the same boat to come alongside us and walk with us on this journey. Please join one of the groups. Sweet Change doesn’t yet say you get #KickWeight free. The second group doesn’t open until later this month, but you will get it if you join even now.
If you haven’t read Sweet Grace and Sweet Freedom and done the workbooks that go with it, please do that. Also if you haven’t gone through #KickSugar go to the FREE tab and get access to that today.
I’m dedicated to helping those who REALLY want help. Sometimes that means making an investment in yourself so you will stay true to you journey. I’d be honored if you’d join us. Oh, here’s the Sweet Change link: https://www.teresashieldsparker.com/sweet-change/
Wonderful article, very uplifting, thanks! <3
Thanks, Peggy!
Amazing analogy. It is so encouraging to see how surrendering to God’s grace has led you to such a life of clarity and purpose! Thank you for sharing.
I thought I had clarity and purpose before, however there is definitely a deeper level to what God has for each of us.