My Daddy had several firm rules for me when I was a teenager. One was no dancing. As a result I never learned to dance.

I think his rule was born out of love. I don’t despise him for not allowing me to dance. He, like many pastors in our denomination, saw dancing as something that could lead to sexual impurity.

31226617_sI Tried to Dance

All I wanted to do was hang out with my friends and listen to the music, which by the way also led to bad things in my Daddy’s way of thinking.

One time I did go to a dance. Sorry, Daddy. I was at a high school journalism workshop and the dance was the culmination of the week. It was just a time to get together with friends and have fun.

I, however, was too concerned with 1. Breaking my Daddy’s rules and 2. Not having an inkling of how to move on the dance floor.

I’ve always been clumsy. Add to that the fact no one ever taught me how to dance and you have a sight that is not in the least bit pretty.

We Tried to Dance

Recently, my husband and I went to a wedding. Afterwards was the reception. Since the groom is a bluegrass player, there was a lot of music and dancing. I wanted so badly to dance. So my husband and I tried for about half a song. He said, “I think we better sit down before you stumble over my feet and fall flat on the floor.”

He wasn’t being mean. He was genuinely concerned because it almost happened a couple of times. I just don’t know how and have never really learned.

Recently at a conference I heard Steffany Frizzel Gretzinger’s song, “We Dance.” A beautiful ballerina danced while another beautiful young lady sang the song. I couldn’t take my eyes off the gracefulness of the ballet and the idea that Jesus was there leading her, twirling her around the floor, not allowing her to miss a beat. It touched something deep in my body, soul and spirit.

During my prayer time, I love to listen to worship songs, especially songs of adoration to the Lord. Today Steffany’s song began playing as I was in my prayer position, which is face down on the floor.

The song talks about dancing with the Lord and allowing Him to lead us each step, not being afraid to let Him lead because He won’t lead us where He doesn’t go.

I was imagining dancing with Jesus and trying to picture it, inviting him to lead a stumbling dancer like me along life’s highway. I confessed feeling like I have three left feet. I confessed not knowing where to place my next step. I confessed all the insecurities about the journey I’m on.

All of a sudden what I saw brought me to tears.

He and I were dancing, which in itself was amazing, when He picked me up and began carrying me twirling me around as we danced.

I wept.

Here’s what only God and my husband know. I didn’t get carried across the threshold after we were married because though I didn’t weigh what I would weigh in the future, I still weighed more than my husband.

I have always wanted to be picked up by my husband and carried. Now Jesus, my spiritual husband, was doing it

And I felt the whisper of His still, small voice say to me, “This will be a reality. All this and more is what I have for you. I am big enough, strong enough to carry you through this life.”

The weeping was on all levels because I felt He meant there was more to come on this journey—physically, emotionally and spiritually.


Twenty pounds is not that much, but when it is gone I will feel more like allowing my husband to attempt carrying me. Last summer, I was having a hard time walking back to the car from a hike. He offered to carry me and I declined telling him I didn’t want to hurt his back. Instead, I believe I might have hurt his pride. I understand that I still see myself as extremely overweight. I am in the process of embracing the new me.


I know He also meant there was more to come on the emotional level as I am learning to feel more deeply the love I have for my husband, my children, my friends, those I lead and coach. The compassion I have for you, dear friend, as you read this overwhelms me. The love and concern I have for the many who have read Sweet Grace and Sweet Grace Study Guide and write to me of how the book touched them and for the more than 90 who have posted reviews on Amazon is deep. I never knew I could feel this kind of connection with people I have never met. Your bravery in the midst of trials moves me. I love you so with a love that comes directly from the God of heaven.


Most of all, God is calling me to go even deeper with Him. Each day it feels I’ve gone as deep as I can go and then I see Him step out even deeper and call me to join Him. It is with trembling faith I follow knowing the safest place I can be is going where He leads. As the song says, I believe “You won’t lead me where You don’t go.” And if I’m allowing Him to carry me, I will be sure to be going where He is going. My quest these days is to climb into His arms and stay there, not trying to squirm of His strong embrace when the way ahead seems risky, scary and unknown. I continue to remind myself of my position—I’m being held by the One who created the universe and we dance.


And in that dancing, He lifts me holding me in the air as He sways to the music. My stumbling feet do not matter. They are not needed when I am being lifted in His strong arms.

He says, “Never forget this feeling.”

Oh, Jesus, I will never forget dancing with you. And I’m very sure even my Daddy, who is watching from heaven, doesn’t mind.

We Dance

You steady me
Slow and sweet, we sway
Take the lead and I will follow
Finally ready now
To close my eyes and just believe
That You won’t lead me
Where You don’t go

When my faith gets tired
And my hope seems lost
You spin me round and round
And remind me of that song
The one You wrote for me
And we dance

And I’ve been told
To pick up my sword
And fight for love
Little did I know
That Love had won for me
Here in Your arms

You still my heart again
And I breathe You in
Like I’ve never breathed ’till now

When my faith gets tired
And my hope seems lost
You spin me round and round
And remind me of that song
The one You wrote for me
And we dance
And I will lock eyes
With the One who’s ransomed me
The One who gave me joy for mourning
And I will lock eyes
With the One who’s chosen me
The One who set my feet to dancing?

We dance
Just You and me
It’s nice to know I’m not alone
I found my home here in Your arms
It’s nice to know I’m not alone?
I found my home here in Your arms
It’s nice to know I’m not alone
I found my home here in Your arms

Listen to We Dance Here.


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Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. Her other books include: "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God".

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