Do-aholics Anonymous has a nice ring to it, don’t you think? I need to start a branch. Maybe you do, as well. That is, unless you wear a tutu. Tutu wearers are exempt. More on that later.
A do-aholic is very similar to a workaholic in that she has the need to fill every waking hour doing something.
If she’s not doing something productive, she feels she has let God, her family and the entire universe down. The earth might tip off it’s axis if she is not doing something.
For a do-aholic rest is not seen as productive. It is seen as a time-stealer, just as is playing dress-up, cuddling with your husband in front of a television movie, going for a bike ride with your children, playing Barbies with your daughter or granddaughter does. All of these though may be exactly the thing God wants you to do to connect with others and give your brain needed down-time.
We are human beings. We cannot produce 24 hours a day. Even though I wish it were so, that doesn’t make it possible.
Hi, I’m Teresa and I’m a recovering do-aholic. I’ve never worn a tutu, but I might start any day!
It’s really a bummer that I have to confess my compulsive nature. I can’t seem to leave things alone. I have to go at something full force.
I couldn’t just eat one cinnamon crunch bagel, I had to eat all 13 in the baker’s dozen. And I can’t just work a little, I have to work or being doing something all the time.
When I stopped eating sugar and gluten, I grieved. It felt like an old friend died. At the beginning of that journey, the idea that I would never again eat a brownie or a piece of Mamaw’s oatmeal cake really depressed me.
The same thing happens when I know God is telling me to take a break and rest from what I’m doing. I grieve. I want to be working. It feels right. It feels necessary.
Resting, taking time to read, watching a show I’ve dvr’d, going shopping, even making supper all seem a waste of time when I’m in the do mode, which for me means writing.
I don’t want to stop and when I do, there is a major sense of let-down.
Some of you may not be able to relate to this issue. You may have the opposite issue of not being able to motivate yourself to do what you know needs to be done.
I believe the major cure for both is to connect to God and to take time for yourself to rest, relax and play, maybe even wear a tutu.
Procrastinating is almost as much work as actually doing whatever it is you are trying to keep from doing.
When you procrastinate, you tend to obsess about what you need to do, which keeps you in a very tiresome mind loop. It can make you more exhausted.
I guess that’s why I love doing. I don’t like thinking about it. That drives me crazy. The problem is, I can always think of more things to do. Even when I’m doing something, I’m always thinking about another thing I need to do.
God doesn’t want us in either extreme. He doesn’t want tired, worn out, cranky people trying to do kingdom work.
In the past, probably 75% of what I did all day long probably wasn’t what God wanted me to do. To tell you the truth, I don’t know for sure. I never really asked Him. It was just what I thought He wanted me to do.
Last year when God tapped me on the shoulder and told me to began writing my story, I put everything else on hold. I intentionally neglected many areas for a season so I could write Sweet Grace.
During this time I learned I can delegate. I don’t have to have everything done just the way I want it done.
I got less concerned about some things because I was more concerned about the one thing I knew was God’s assignment for me. It felt very much like the assignment had a time frame attached to it. It wasn’t for the future. I needed to finish the book then.
Work is a good thing, but only when we are doing the thing God has for us to do. In order to do that, we first have to connect.
We have to be connected to God so we know who we are. We are a human being. We have to be in order to do in order to have.
Many people get this backwards. In order to have a new house, they have do additional work and then they will finally be somebody worthy of having the house.
Or they want to do a certain kind of work in order to have some notoriety so they can be someone important.
The only way we can get this in the correct order is to be in connection with God first. Then the do and the have will fall in place.
Take some time today to connect with God and let Him tell you who you are and what He wants you to do. It is a sure cure for do-aholism. Well, that and wearing a tutu!
I can guarantee, if you do those two things, the grief of missing all that doing will vanish!
“Here’s what I want you to do: Find a quiet, secluded place so you won’t be tempted to role-play before God. Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage. The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense His grace,” Matthew 6:6 MSG.
“Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; He’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all. Run to God! Run from evil! Your body will glow with health, your very bones will vibrate with life!” Proverbs 3:5-8 MSG.
Teresa Shields Parker is a wife, mother, business owner, life group leader, speaker and author of Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God’s Favor and Sweet Grace Study Guide: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Overcome Sugar Addiction. Get a free chapter of her memoir on her blog at Teresa Shields Parker.com. Connect with her there or on her Facebook page.