It’s difficult to erase fear because the source is so well-hidden. The evil one knows this and therefore, tries to bury the memory of what caused the fear while still keeping the door of fear open.

Once we understand this and ask God to show us the source, we can easily thwart the effort. Sometimes the precipitating incident is something that has been so well disguised, we don’t even recognize it as being anything substantial at all.

Such was the case with the door of fear I felt was still open in my life. I had no idea where or what it was, I just knew there was something. When I asked God, He showed me the following incident. I had remembered the situation, but didn’t understand the connection until He revealed it.

Wiping off fear

I was about 14. We had pulled up in the driveway of my grandmother’s two-story farmhouse. Pulled down further in the drive was a car we didn’t recognize.

There was a man in the car. We could tell his head was sort of bobbling around. And then he rested it against the back of the seat like he was asleep.

I wanted my Dad to go and see what was the matter with the man. He said we should go inside first.

My grandmother waited at the door anxiously wringing a dishtowel between her hands.

“Oh Ernie, I’m so glad you’re here. I need you to go tell that man he needs to leave. Daddy is gone to town and the deputy can’t be out her for two hours.”

“Has he threatened you?”

“No. He hasn’t gotten out of the car. I know who he is. He’s a distant cousin and he’s drunk. No telling what he’ll do if he gets out of the car. I just want him off of the property.”

“It looks like he passed out. He won’t hurt you. And really it’s best he not drive if he’s drunk. He might kill someone else.”

I could tell my grandmother was not real happy with the solution. My father, brother and sister left to go to my dad’s farm several miles away. I stayed to protect Grandma.

She was anxious and fidgety, looking out the window often until the sheriff’s deputy arrived several hours later and carted the man off to jail.

I hadn’t thought of this story in years. I was only reminded of it when praying about why after dealing with lots of issues of fear in my life, I still felt unprotected.

I understood then. I had bonded with my grandmother in a kind of soul-tie regarding the anxiety of feeling unprotected.

I forgave my grandmother for unknowingly transferring that feeling to me. I broke that soul-tie and just for good measure forgave my father for leaving us unprotected.

At the time I understood why he left, but my grandmother felt very vulnerable. Being the child in the situation I took on her feelings while at the same time trying to protect her.

This soul-tie to my grandmother’s anxiety left open a door of fear in my life.

As I handed this to God, I said, “Father, I give you this anxiety, fear and feeling of not being protected. What do you give me in return?”

Immediately, I sensed peace and comfort fall over me. I also knew that He spoke in my mind and said, “I give you My peace.1 I am with you always.2 You never need to be afraid. I am by your side.”

I know if I leave the door of fear open, fear will seep in again. Just a little fear begins to rule and reign in my life making me do things I don’t understand.

I know in my life, even though it makes no sense, I protected myself by allowing extreme weight gain. Even though my rational mind wanted it gone, my emotional being wanted it present to feel protected.

The interesting thing is weight gain does not protect me. I can’t run when I am heavy. I don’t have the muscle mass I need or the strength I need to protect myself. My immune system is weaker because of the unhealthy foods I consume.

It’s a known fact that those who are overweight, obese, morbidly obese or larger are more susceptible to diseases of all kinds.

I was not protecting myself by gaining weight. I was leaving myself wide open for attack.

It’s these kinds of half truths and lies the enemy sets up to lead me astray and cause my demise. He wants fear to be at work limiting what I can do for the Kingdom of God. He does not want it erased.

He does the same to you. I know he does because he has no new tricks. Once we identify what he’s up to, we can erase fear through prayer and forgiveness.

Whatever is in your door of fear, deal with it today. Follow what I did above to forgive those in the situation, break soul ties if necessary, give the feelings to Father God and ask Him what He gives you in return.

Then just picture Him erasing the fear from your life. Ah, freedom. There is nothing like it!

I would love to hear your experience. Please share in the comments below.

1 John 14:27

2 Hebrews 13:5


Teresa Shields Parker is a wife, mother, business owner, life group leader, speaker and author of Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God’s Favor and Sweet Grace Study Guide: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Overcome Sugar Addiction. Get a free chapter of her memoir on her blog at Teresa Shields Connect with her there or on her Facebook page.

Teresa Shields Parker
Teresa Shields Parker is a Christian weight loss author, coach and speaker, who has lost more than 250 pounds. Her book, "Sweet Grace: How I Lost 250 Pounds and Stopped Trying to Earn God's Favor", is the number 1 Christian Weight Loss Memoir on Amazon. Her other books include: "Sweet Journey to Transformation: Practical Steps to Lose Weight and Live Healthy", "Sweet Freedom: Losing Weight and Keeping It Off With God's Help", "Sweet Change: True Stories of Transformation" and "Sweet Hunger: Developing an Appetite for God".

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